Gavin T. Murphy keeps a blog on ilovebipolar.com and he looks to Ignatian Spirituality for strength and inspiration.
I’ve been reflecting lately on the state of our relationships. I think it is fair to say that we all have a degree of harmony and disharmony with others. There is a smoothness with those we get on well with; there is a synchronising of heart rhythms when we are together. We trust each other, love each other and care for each other. We create a homely atmosphere wherever we may be: at a coffee shop, in the work canteen, in the park. Conversely, we feel tension and frustration with those we don’t see eye to eye with: our heart rhythms repel when we are together. We are vigilant and on guard for any verbal attacks. We are cautious and don’t share too much. We are happy to see each other’s backs. Isn’t it a curious thing? How can we grow in wisdom and love?
Two images swim to the surface on this issue. For me, the image of a beautiful, blossoming flower represents someone who expresses their talents to the full. They do not falsely humble themselves and play small in the world. They are alive, creative, fruitful, and full of light and love. They are an inspiration to others – instruments of hope and potential. And there is the image of the burning flame of fire. This represents people who have passion, drive, spirit and energy. They are not dominated by the intellect which as we know has its limits. They are in tune with their dreams and perhaps divinely given plans for the world. Their hearts are burning bright. Together, flower and fire form what I call ‘flower power’. These people influence the world in a myriad of positive ways: as loved ones, acquaintances, strangers, even as perceived enemies.
Point of convergence
So what do the ‘flower powers’ have to offer in the area of relationships? How do they relate to harmonious and disharmonious people. Simply put, they tend to avoid disharmony because their energy is directed toward a point of convergence, a point of goodness where everything begins and ends. They are drawn and attracted to this ultimate reality. In this way, they are not caught up with unnecessary conflict and tension – fighting with people who just want to punch for the sake of it. They pick up on everyone’s heart rhythms. Essentially, they shine like angels who endure the messiness of life. Their beauty is carried by a powerful movement that gets them through things, that enables them to handle tricky situations and most importantly that nudges them to plough through to the finishing line.